Can you catch your story? This is tricky. These negative thoughts happen quickly, sometimes quiet, and often. In fact, 95% of our thoughts are unconscious, and 80% of them are negative. So if you don't know what is running you, that's totally normal. But imagine if you could capture the story and change it, would it be a superpower?
“Life is punishing me because I'm a bad daughter. ”
“I'm fine.”
“It’s hard for me to be friends.”
“My husband would be better without me.”
These are just some stories I've encountered in the past week. None of them are true. They all suffered. Obviously, they don't serve me. What now?
When these stories are not examined, they appear in the way you communicate with your partner, how you work, and how you communicate in your daily life.
The story continues your life
One trend I noticed among my clients is that they keep pushing these stories away and burying them inside. Or let them take over and create the reality of how they travel through the world. Both angles are dangerous and provide adverse results.
One popular story I heard is: “I should be grateful for everything I have. Some people are in a worse situation.” This will stop you from wanting something more like that corner office, upgrading to first class, or just having a stupid conversation with your partner rather than covering home logistics.
The problem is, it's hard to know or understand these are just stories. When negative noises bounce inside your head all day, it's like screaming to an echo chamber. Plus, your brain is working to quickly classify information. Since these stories are likely to stem from early life experiences, your brain sees them as evidence rather than fiction. “Just submit it quickly in the '''''' box and you can go to the next message.”
It happens quickly and it can quickly affect your emotions, confidence, communication and decision-making. But what if you slow down the process?
Cost of competing through your thoughts
I get it. We live in a society that values speed. Everything needs to be done faster. The average attention span of adult Internet users is 8.25 seconds, only focusing on one screen is about 47 seconds, and only taking about 10 minutes to focus on a work project before switching to something else.
But faster is not always better. It takes 25 minutes to switch tasks to refocus them correctly. Not being able to stay on one screen means you are missing context and therefore more likely to be misleading.
The same thing happens to your thoughts, feelings and beliefs. When you don't slow down to check it more thoroughly, these thoughts can affect how you feel, resulting in sadness, insecurity, depression, inwardness, shame. Then, the combination of thoughts and negative emotions becomes beliefs. They host performances like puppet masters.
My journey to reveal the story
I am fascinated by the process of uncovering these stories. On my own journey to recovery, I have been doing treatment with five different therapists for 15 consecutive years, who offer a variety of ways to support the stage I am on. I have visited immersive health resorts in several countries where I met with therapists and have experienced new ways to grow. I have worked with the coach (and continue to do so) to support my expansion. My husband said I swallowed the book, read a new book a week to continue my education, evolution, recovery, and find more and more ways to help my clients.
With all this, I still find it difficult to see this story. So, how do we expect ordinary people to see these stories running them? That's an unfair question. The problem I want to solve.
13 Steps to Reclaim Your Power
To help my clients create their dream lives without blowing up their current reality, I divided the process into 13 steps. That’s what you need to identify a story and turn it into something that serves you. My process involves mindfulness techniques because we need to regulate the nervous system in the process and show our highly alert brain that dreaming, thinking differently and creating positive changes is safe. It includes a little stupidity because the journey will feel heavy and we need help staying away from negative help. It inspires you.
One thing I love to dream is that it can help you reveal some of the nonsense in your mind. You reconnect with the excitement of desire as you continue to explore bravely. Complete the process I created means you are not thinking wishfully. You believe from the depth of your soul that you deserve and deserve this dream life. With a solid foundation, nothing is possible.
This transition happens faster than you think when you know what to look for. When you get support. I've seen clients go from “I know it's a dream” to “I'll have it, I deserve it.”
Ready to capture your story?
Life is not punishing me. I'm a good person. I'm very important. I love it very easily. I have made amazing contributions to my husband's life every day. Whatever you say to yourself is a lie.
Continue to ignore the cost of these stories? Another year of disconnection from yourself, your partner and your life. Another year you dream of is buried under the never-ending to-do list.
Let's learn about this story together so you can live with ease and confidence and dream of those big and beautiful dreams. If this resonates, I would love to explore these stories with you. Grab some time On my calendar. We will spend 30 minutes determining what you are running and creating change for you to be the protagonist rather than the extra life.
